When your Daughter is your Bestie!

I am blessed with an Angel who was bestowed upon me 10 years ago from Heaven above. I quit working the time I came to know I’m pregnant. Luckily, I was working for my pleasure and growth and not for any financial constraints, so was easier. Seeing her grow has been a beautiful story in itself. Her first smile, her first flip, her first tooth, the first time she walked, all milestones in themselves. Incomparable with anyone else. Since the beginning I’ve kept myself and her out of the competition and comparison race. I’ve enjoyed each and every moment of her cute and innocent childhood. I had severe anxiety issues when she started playschool, but when I saw her going and coming out happily from there, that was motivation enough for me. Gradually, we settled into a routine. I ride a 2 wheeler, which she loved that time. She called it her plane, to fly away with her mommy. I took her every place with me, be it movies, shopping, a social gathering etc., basically never left her alone and avoided any place where kids weren’t allowed. It’s my thought process, that since I’m the one who decided to bring her into the world, I can do at least this bare minimum sacrifice for her. Basically I wanted to be a hands on Mom, as I believe I’ve played all roles in my life with full commitment and dedication, I wanted to do full justice to this one as well. Besides, it was only a matter of some years, since the time she started full fledged school, I was back to my routine. We were very happy with one kid and she’s the apple of our eye. Whenever I see my hubby with his Princess, my love and respect for him increases every time. He’s the best dad ever to my kids. KIDS…yes...When my elder one was 6 years old I came to know I was pregnant again. Probably the most unexpected surprise life threw at us. But the one most excited and happy about it was my daughter, as she always saw children who had siblings and always craved for one. I myself have a sister whom I’m extremely close to, and we three Mom, myself and sis are probable the best company in the world, If I may say so. Seeing me with my mom and sis, she was very clear from the beginning that she wanted a sister as well so she could experience what I have. My hubby always addressed the lil one in my tummy as small Niqi, that’s the pet name of my elder one, making it very clear what his preference was as well.  During my pregnancy, Niqi was the best child I could ask for. She was so comforting and on her toes throughout. She had suddenly grown in those 9 months. Always worrying and fussing about me and the lil one within. I had terrible pregnancy pangs during the second one any time of the day, hubby literally got fed up. So, I made Niqi my partner and we both gorged on roadside pani puri to dominos to name it ;-) I had opted for an elective C Sec and we had our 2^nd lil princess. My Hubby and Niqi were over the moon. Niqi is officially the best elder sis in the world, yes she takes away my best sister tag. Right from helping me change her diapers to getting stuff for me when lil one was in my arms. She even didn’t go to play many times if she felt lil one was doing something unusually interesting. I always told her tales about her childhood whenever the little one did something. I love taking kiddos videos and have tons of both of them. Me and Niqi see those videos even now, when we get nostalgic. Now Niqi is 10 and lil one 4, most of the time they are besties, sometimes they fight like cats and dogs also, but the love is evident even in the fights.  Seeing them grow, I am reminiscent of my childhood with my Parents and sis. Niqi is now more of a friend than a daughter, where we discuss movies, books, places, boys etc.  We both drool over a good looking guy we come upon or we see on television, it’s extremely natural and healthy.  She comes and discusses about her day and her friends of both the genders, to me. I’ve always encouraged her to make friends with whom she likes, be it a boy or a girl. She has been made aware of the changes she and her body will go though as she approaches puberty as well along with lessons of the Good and Bad Touch.  I want to enjoy each and every moment with my princesses like i have in my childhood. These memories are the treasure, we girls always carry with us when we leave our parents castle to our new kingdom with our life partner. This is my story of making my daughter my Bestie and hopefully I will repeat the same with the lil one as well.